Having
Sex when Menopause , Who's Afraid ?
Are
you now a woman who have entered menopause ( stopping menstruation )? If yes,
are you one of the women who are having problems in sexual intercourse? Do not
think your sex drive straight off when entering the age of menopause ( stopping
menstruation ). When stepping menopause , many women feel decreased arousal to
sexual intercourse with her husband . Should first identify a few things
related to post-menopausal woman's sex life that led to changes in arousal when
you are having sex .
Every
woman will experience menopause definitely . At that time the production of the
hormone estrogen which serves to stimulate menstruation in women begin to
diminish and disappear . While estrogen is important in determining a woman's
sexual function . If the hormone is reduced or disappears , it will be directly
proportional to the decrease in sexual response . In women who are going
through that phase likely will experience a decrease in sexual desire .
Keinginnan to have sex with a partner also declined . Meanwhile , the decline
in estrogen levels also cause a decrease in blood flow to the vagina . The
decrease in blood flow will affect vaginal lubrication , which will eventually
lead to dryness of the vagina ( vaginal dryness ) and discomfort when having
sex . (1)
In
general, people interpret physiological menopause is the cessation of menstrual
cycles associated with advanced age women ( 2). Menopause is a word that has
many meanings which consists of men and pauses word derived from the Greek word
that was first used to describe the cessation of menstruation . It is a
biological process end of the menstrual cycle that occurs due to decreased
production of the hormone estrogen produced by the ovaries (ovarian ) ( Sarwono
P , 2003) .
Sex
becomes basic human needs , such as eating and drinking . If you unfulfilled
sexual needs could be hurt , as well as not eating and not drinking . Zoya
Amirin sexologists say no sexual fulfillment on the physical and psychological
impact . Emotionally , a person who is unexpressed sexual needs , it would be
easy to get angry , unhappy , cynical , negative behavior such as gossiping
happy . While physical ailments often experienced their unmet sexual needs ,
including psychosomatic , hair loss and stress symptoms . (3)
Not
all women experience menopause will experience a decrease in sexual function .
Indeed, it is written in some litelatur the possibility of an increased libido
during menopause due to the decrease anxiety associated with the fear of
getting pregnant. The fact that menopausal women who were not able to undergo
pregnancy causes relaxation while having sex . This relaxation will be able to
increase the satisfaction and intimacy with her partner . (4)
Declining
levels of estrogen is not the only cause of decreased libido . There are many
factors that can also create them , including bladder control disorder that is
common in menopause , sleep disorders , depression and anxiety , stress and the
effect of some medicines usually metabolism were also consumed with the passage
of age .
Here are 10 things that actually happened to a
woman's sex life after menopause stepping: (5)
1 . vaginal Changed
After menopause , the
vagina is going to undergo some changes due to the loss of estrogen . However ,
most of the changes can not be detected by eye . In other words , no change as
to shrink and make it look like a trimmed pussy . Blood flow to the vagina was
reduced after menopause , therefore sex is the best way to help keep you
healthy . According Ricciotti , still have sex will stimulate blood flow to the
vagina and keep your body to stay healthy .
2 . Reduced lubrication
fluid
One of the realities of
sex after menopause is vaginal dryness . It happens to almost all women .
3 . Perspective on
yourself changing
Many of the changes
that occur during menopause is not only physical , but also menta . Menopause
can change the way women about their bodies and sexual life and self-esteem .
To solve it , try little things like playing music section to boost your
confidence .
4 . Still at risk of
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Many menopausal women
are not aware that they are still at risk of contracting HIV or other sexually
transmitted diseases , so busy they do not use condoms because they do not
worry about the risk of pregnancy. But it leads to an increase of HIV incidence
in the age group above 50 years .
5 . Should try a little
harder to reach orgasm
You could have an
orgasm until dozens of times in one night , but in reality during or after
menopause , you may have to work a little harder to achieve one or two orgasms
.
Do not let that put you
down performance . Remember that you can not compete with the memory of when I
was younger . Age 50 years is 20 years . Fixed loved every aspect of your self
and with the age of 50 years .
6 . Sex drive can go up
or down
Menopause can give
different effects for everyone . When a woman's sexual arousal decreases ,
another woman even with the right mindset , increased sexual arousal .
For some women , there
is a surge of adrenaline that can encourage you to try new things and change
the mindset . Next, you will go through life at the age of 50 years , 60 ,
years and beyond with an adventurous mindset .
7 . The need for a more
intimate relationship could be increased
After menopause , women
still want to have sex , but they want much more intimate again , to get more
intimacy , foreplay should begin in the morning with a kiss , a gentle pat on
the buttocks , touching a hand , or whispers something fun when the day wore .
This can increase the
desire to have sex and encourage sexual arousal . Both partners can spend more
time to devote attention and fully enjoy their sexual experiences .
8 . Vaginal wall may
become thinner
One of the biggest
problems of sex life after menopause ie , decreasing levels of estrogen can
cause thinning of the vaginal wall .
Thinning of the vaginal
wall lubrication plus reduction can be a painful thing . If you experience
this, then you should consult a doctor in order to get therapy or estrogen
cream .
Estrogen therapy
including topical cream proven to have positive effects , although because of
the potential for other health problems , including the use of estrogen with
any soy consumption should be discussed in more detail with your doctor .
9 . Many sports can
increase your passion
Dr. Ricciotti remind
patients that , one of the best ways to increase libido is to a healthy lifestyle
, including many sports . He argues that the sex drive and sexual organ
function is part of holistic health .
" If you are not
healthy physically or emotionally , your sex drive will inevitably decline .
Gets energy from a healthy diet and regular exercise along with rest and
mentally healthy , be healthy sex drive key , " said Dr. Ricciotti .
10 . Your sex life will
not change dramatically
Estimates of the sex
life after menopause would be good or not can be seen through the sex life
before menopause . Happy woman with premenopausal sex life , are more likely to
maintain their sexual relationship satisfaction after their menopause .
Not
all women will experience menopause sexual function decline . Estimates of the
sex life after menopause would be good or not can be seen through the sex life
before menopause . Whether or not sexual intercourse after menopause also
depends on each individual woman who is affected also by changes in physical
terms , especially her female organs . (6)
If
you are one of the women who experienced disruption during intercourse at
menopause of course this can be addressed with your spouse . Sexual intercourse
at menopause can be done according to the ability and willingness of each .
Sexual dysfunction that occurs during menopause can be overcome . Vaginal pain
can be treated with hormone treatment . The goal that perlendiran vagina better
, in addition to improvements in the functioning of the body. If only to cope
with the pain , use a vaginal lubricant materials when doing sexual intercourse
. Certainly not cure vaginal lubricant . To improve the physical intimacy is better to
try some tips below (7):
-
Strengthen your knowledge of anatomy body , sexual response and sexual behavior
. These things will reduce your anxiety to sexual function .
-
Strengthen sexual stimulation and arousal using the media ( book or video ) and
then change your sexual routine . Try to be more spontaneous .
-
Create a pleasant atmosphere to improve the reception of your five senses . For
example with a tidy bedroom , adding a fragrant scent that you like and play
them music that is able to arouse sexual desire .
-
Expand intimate nonsexual activity , such as massage or hug each other . This
activity is not only able to increase intimacy but also improve communication
with your spouse .
-
Minimize pain during sex by practicing coitus comfortable position . Position
the choice you and your spouse may have to sense and makes you able to control
the depth of penetration .
-
Always communicate with your partner what makes you comfortable and what makes
uncomfortable . (8)
Another
way to do this is to address the issue of the physical aspect is to maintain a
healthy body and with absolute regular exercise , eating healthy foods ,
healthy lifestyle . In terms of psychic we can to maintain the emotional
attachment to our partner in sexual intercourse . If the interest is gone ,
there was a variety of sexual dysfunction , and in fact this is the most
difficult problem to overcome. Thus , the problem can be solved in a sexual
relationship in terms of physical and psychological well should be established
between husband and wife.
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